Tuesday, May 31, 2011


I had the honor and privilege to meet and spend some time with Joel Osteen back in April while I was in Houston for the Final Four.  He is truly a man after my own heart.  Whenever I read a book I underline passages that catch my eye & then my assistant types them up for future reference.   I hope you will enjoy summary from Joel Osteen's book, It's Your Time. 


By:  Joel Osteen

A global recession has forced many to postpone their dreams and cancel their
plans.  You may have lost your job.  You may have lost your savings, maybe even
your home.  It could be that you have health concerns or relationship problems.
Maybe you are frustrated because it’s taking so long to get where you want to be
in your life.  Yet now is not the time to talk yourself out of your goals and
dreams.  Now is not the time to get discouraged.  You may feel you have so far
to go.  But the truth is, you don’t know.  Your dream may just be up around the
corner.  You may think it will take another two years.  But if you stay in
faith, who knows?  It may just be two more months.  You are closer than you

God wants to breathe new life into your dreams.  He wants to breathe new hope
into your heart.  You may be about to give up on a marriage, on a troubled
child, on a lifelong goal.  But God wants you to hold on.  He says that if
you’ll get your second wind, if you’ll put on a new attitude and press forward
like you’re headed down the final stretch, you’ll see Him begin to do amazing

You are closer than you think to a better life, a richer relationship, a
healthier body.

Rewards await you if you stay steadfast in your faith.

Before you see a new level of God’s favor, don’t be surprised if things come
against you to try to discourage you.  People may try to talk you out of your
dreams, to convince you to just settle where you are.

It’s difficult when we go through a time of loss.  There’s a proper time for
grieving.  But we can’t let a season of mourning turn into a lifetime of

When you feel like dying, you should talk about living.  When you feel like
giving up, you should talk about pressing forward.  When you don’t see any way
out, you must talk about how God can make a way.  And know this:  The enemy
always fights you the hardest when he knows God has something great in store.

When the bottom falls out and it looks like you hit an all-time low . . . when
it just couldn’t get any worse . . . you don’t know what God has around the
corner.  That is not the time to get bitter.  That’s not the time to get
negative.   That is the time to put your shoulders back and boldly declare: “My
time is coming.  I am a victor and not a victim.”

No matter how long it’s been, no matter how tempted you are to get discouraged,
get up every morning and just declare it by faith: “My time is coming.  The
promise is in me, and I will not die until I see it come to pass.”

When you feel intimidated, like you can’t do something that you know on the
inside you should do, just remind yourself:  “I have the DNA of Almighty God.
He breathed His life into me.  I will not drag around feeling discouraged,
intimidated, and inferior.  I know I’ve been equipped with everything I need.  I
can do all things through Christ, and I will fulfill my God-given destiny.”

If you’ll have that attitude and keep pressing forward, believing, expecting,
then those genes of favor, increase, talent, and promotion will activate and
help take you to new levels.

If you get rid of any kind of negative, defeated attitude and simply stay in
faith, you will see good things released in your future—new seasons of increase,
new seasons of favor.

You must shake off any feelings of inferiority or low self-esteem.  Put your
shoulders back.  Hold your head up high.  You are a child of the Most High God.
You have His royal blood flowing through your veins.

Maybe you’ve made mistakes, poor choices.  You feel like you’re washed up or
that you are supposed to just endure life.  But God is saying, “If you’ll ask,
I’ll give you a new beginning.”

Keep your faith flowing even when there is no hope in sight.  Dare to dream big
and pray boldly, especially—yes, especially—when there is no hope in sight!

Challenging times have served as catalysts for creativity, innovation, and
accomplishment throughout human history.

Make up your mind that no matter what comes your way, no matter how difficult,
no matter how unfair, you will do more than simply survive.  You will thrive in
spite of it.

Keeping God first, believing and expecting His favor, then as His branches, we
will not survive, we will thrive!

Still, you have to keep your faith out there.  Negative voices will try to steal
your dreams and talk you into settling for life as it is.

If you believe to barely get by, you will barely get by.

If you believe that you will have a tough year, your faith will draw that in.

You must believe it before you see it.

Psychologists and researchers who study “hope theory” have found that focusing
on solutions increases our capacity to reach our goals while lifting our spirits
in the process.

What you mediate on takes root.  If you go around all day thinking about your
fears, and you play those fears out over and over again in your mind, they will
become your reality.

Your fears are almost always greater than the reality.

Don’t accept difficult days as the way it will always be.  You may be a little
bent right now because of hard winds, but that’s not permanent.  Those winds,
that storm, that trouble, that sickness, will not last forever.  When the ill
winds stop blowing, and they will, know that this too shall pass.

You will rise again.  Why?  You’ve got that bounce-back power.  Life will hand
you disappointments and setbacks.  You and I are like the palm tree.  We may bet
battered and beat up, but we will return stronger than we were before.

Nothing you are going through can keep you from your God-given destiny.  You
have bounced back before and you will do it again.  You may be a little bent
because of the strong winds, but the good news is, you’re not broken and you
will bounce back again.

Everyone goes through adversity.  We’ve all had hard times.  Maybe you were
struck down by an illness or laid off from your job.  Your savings were cut in
half.  A relationship went bad.

It’s easy to become negative and bitter and to lose your enthusiasm for life.
So many people live in the past and focus on who hurt them.  They have a victim
mentality, always blaming someone else.

Maybe you’ve made poor choices.  You’ve made some mistakes and opened the door
to trouble.  Now comes the condemning voice.  The accuser tells you, “You blew
it.  It’s your fault.  You can’t expect anything good.”

No, you’ve got to shake that off and say, “I may have brought trouble upon
myself, but I know God’s mercy is bigger than any mistakes I’ve made.  I will
not live with guilt.  I will not give up on my dreams.  I know I’m growing.  I’m
learning.  And in the end, God will use it all to my advantage.”

If you run from your problems and turn negative and sour, really, you’re running
from your destiny.  If you’ll learn to run to your problem, face it in faith,
knowing that God is in control, knowing that He can become what you need, then
you are running to your destiny.

To stay focused on your dreams, you may have to tune out negative voices coming
from others and from within too.

Many people let doubts take a stronghold in their minds.  Something negative was
spoken over them, they believed it, and suddenly it’s holding them back.  The
first step to dealing with doubts is to determine how they were planted.  Was it
a family member who said you’d never be successful?  Was it a teacher who
predicted you’d never get an A?  Was it a friend who said you’ll never break
your addiction?

Just because they didn’t see it, just because they couldn’t do it, doesn’t mean
you can’t make it happen.  Reprogram your thinking.  Break free from the
strongholds of doubt.

Ask yourself, “Who told me I don’t have what it takes?” “Who told me I’m just
average?” “Who told me I’m not talented enough?”

People don’t determine our destiny; God does.

Don’t make the mistake of comparing yourself with others.

It’s when we try to be something we’re not that life gets frustrating.

Don’t get discouraged, give up, or settle just because it didn’t happen one
way.  Keep knocking.  Keep believing.  Keep hoping.  Keep dreaming.  You may
hear ten people tell you no before you come to that one yes.  But that one yes
will make up for all the other noes.  You may have a dozen things that you’ve
tried that didn’t work out, but if you’ll stay in faith, you’ll come to that one
thing that does work out.

When you truly believe, it sets a series of events into motion.

Friday, May 27, 2011


Two words that never seem to go together or work together are selfishness and winning.  On the other hand, when we study the key characteristics of winning organizations we find that unselfishness is of paramount importance.  It's a necessary ingredient that enhances other aspects of success in a team endeavor.

So why is unselfishness so important?  What does it do to teams?  It has been my experience with the Boston Celtics (and in particular, as a coach in our 2008 NBA World Championship run) that unselfishness alone was extremely important for us, but the ways this unselfish attitude created additional advantages for us was also very important to our success.

Below are some by-products of an unselfish approach:

    •    the sprit of our team was much greater
    •    the intensity of our play was much greater
    •    the willingness to move the ball created easier, high percentage shots for us
    •    it helped us plug holes in our defense; we covered for each other
    •    it created frustration in our opponents, as the power of the pass can never be underestimated
    •    it kept us juiced up for the next game (which is very important when you are playing over 100 games in a season); our guys 
wanted to come to work
    •    it gave us confidence knowing that we could survive a player's off night because the ball always found the open player (and therefore, the high percentage shot)
    •    it allowed us the feeling that one guy never had to carry the burden
    •    it gave us a sense that we could not be beaten because opponents had to beat all of us together -- not just one superstar on his own
    •    most of all, it gave us a feeling that we wanted to be out there on the floor every night and that we knew it was truly US against the opponent; we knew our backs were covered every minute of every game; simply put: we knew if we absorbed ourselves in the team that we would have a chance to succeed at the highest level!

Is unselfishness important? Yes -- important enough that every champion has it as a vital part of its DNA!

Kevin Eastman
Boston Celtics Assistant Coach 2008 NBA World Champions Corp. & Motivational Speaker Consultant to Coaches Worldwide 


Norman Vincent Peale shares four easy steps you can take to cultivate a positive attitude.

By Norman Vincent Peale

The world in which you live is not determined by outward circumstances as much as it is by the thoughts that occupy your mind. You can think and believe your way to misery or to a life of joy, satisfaction, and abundance. You have the power to choose.

The concept of positive thinking is a philosophy, an expression of faith. It doesn’t ignore life’s problems, but explains a practical approach to deal with, and overcome, them.

Anyone interested in seeking a better, promise- filled way of life, can find it through positive thinking and faith in God. To become a successful positive thinker, here are some ideas to think about:

1. To every disadvantage, there usually is a corresponding advantage. Consider the old truism that behind the darkest clouds the sun is shining. In the toughest situations there is always some value that is inherently good. The positive thinker will look for the good, for the advantage, and will therefore do far better with the difficulty than the negative thinker will. What you deeply think and visualize has a strong tendency to happen. So always think positively, believingly, expectantly, hopefully.

2. It isn’t what is happening but your attitude toward what is happening. Let’s assume a big, hard fact, and here are two men of equal intelligence facing it. One man says. “This is an overwhelming difficulty, more than I can handle.” So he is defeated by the fact. The other man says, “This is a tough situation, but with God’s help, I can handle it.” And he proceeds to do so successfully. It is the attitude toward the fact that is crucial—more so than the fact itself.

3. Develop a positive mental attitude toward the bottom. I have often had to deal with glum and discouraged people who have said, “I’ve hit bottom and there is no hope.” To one such man I replied, “Congratulations. Having hit bottom, you can go no lower; the only direction is up. So start thinking up.” He did, and after a time new ideas came that helped him to move up well above the bottom.
4. Put thoughts of God up against your trouble. A friend of mine, at 84, had her leg amputated. Even so, she does all her housework from a wheelchair. When asked if she ever becomes discouraged, she answered, “Certainly I do.” Then I asked, “What do you do when you get discouraged?” She replied, “What is there to do but get over it? I simply take the attitude that, with the Lord helping me, I can sweep all dark shadows from my mind, as I do the dust in my house.”

Thursday, May 26, 2011

Top Five Characteristics for Success in Sports

Researchers at Loyola Marymount University, Los Angeles, recently compiled a list of 128 characteristics of what makes a good athlete a winner.  They divided the list of 128 traits into half psychological and half physical characteristics.  Examples of psychological characteristics were: they perform well under pressure, they are teachable, etc.  Examples of physical characteristics were items such as body size, natural physical strength, and general talent or athletic attributes.

They then asked 658 coaches from 43 different sports to choose five of these characteristics that they felt defined winners.  The majority of these coaches chose psychological qualities over physical abilities for determining successful/winning athletes.  

These researchers determined that the top five characteristics for success in sports to be:

That these athletes love to play their game or sport.
They have a positive attitude in general toward life.
They are teachable and coachable.
They are self-motivated.
They have the discipline and drive to take the necessary steps to improve their game.

The “natural physical athlete” characteristic ranked 19th out of 128 characteristics listed in this study.  These finding support the belief of many sports psychologists that success in sports is as much as 90% mental.   

These same five characteristics are essential for a person’s success in business and life as well. 

Wednesday, May 25, 2011


Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, asks why we aren't more compassionate more of the time.
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Friday, May 20, 2011


Relative to the whole scheme of things, your life span could be compared to lighting a candle and immediately blowing it out. In other words, life is short - very short. Missing out on any of the joys life offers is a tragedy.
If your life is being controlled by your fears, you are most certainly cheating yourself.
Courage is the mental muscle that conquers fear. Like all muscles, the more you use them the stronger they become. Courage is not something you are born with, it must be developed. Individuals who fail to develop courage, remain confined in mental prisons and face each day as mental lightweights.
It has been said if you face the thing you fear, fear leaves you.
For years I believed that courageous individuals had no fear. I was wrong. Eddie Richenbacher put it very well when he said, "There is no courage without fear." We all have fear, however, not everyone becomes subservient to their fears.
There is, very likely, something you have wanted to do for years - move to another city, start your own business, apply for that better position, go after the big account. Whatever it is you should do it. Remember, life is not a practice run. This is it. A little courage leads to more.
Observe those poor souls who are without courage. They merely tiptoe through life hoping they make it safely to death.
You and I were never meant to live that way. Learn to live the way you like by no longer living as you dislike. Forge into the remainder of your day with an abundance of courage. That's living!
Bob Proctor Speaker and Author

Thursday, May 19, 2011


BJ Gallagher
Sociologist, best-selling author, and popular speaker.

My friend Sam Beasley taught me how to get more of what I love in life. He calls it active appreciation -- here's how he explained it to me: Sam asked: "Do you like where you live?"

"I love where I live!" I answered.
"Good," Sam said. "Then here's what you do. Every morning and every evening, for ten minutes or so, walk through your home and notice the things that you really love. An old quilt your mother made, a vase you inherited from your great aunt, a piece of furniture you treasure, a room you love to spend time in, a piece of art, or whatever it is that you love. Touch these things, run your fingers over them, and say out loud, 'I love this; I'd like more of this.' This is an act of 'active appreciation' in which you tell the Universe that you are deeply grateful for these blessings. You show appreciation and you ask for more. The Universe is a giant YES machine -- it will always send you more of what you pay attention to."
Sam summarized: "If you don't like what you're getting in your life, change your prayer. How you live your life is a form of prayer; what you pay attention to is a form of prayer; what you express gratitude for is a form of prayer. If you want your life to be different, your prayer must be different."
"Schedule this time on your calendar, just as you would any other appointment," Sam added. "Because if you don't schedule it, you'll start forgetting to do it. This is scheduled gratitude -- active appreciation."
"Once you've done that," he said, "start practicing active appreciation in other ways. When you walk your dog, look for three things you're grateful for. When you're driving to a business meeting, look for three things to be grateful for. When you're out running errands, look for three things to be grateful for. You want to train yourself into the gratitude habit."
I've been following Sam's instructions for some time now and the results are amazing. I feel like a very rich woman. I walk around happy almost all the time. I notice what's right in my home, in my business, and in my life. I give gratitude for my pets as I stroke their fur. I am grateful for my home-based business and count my blessings when I sit down to write every day. I give thanks and appreciation for my wonderful family, my loving friends, my car, my garden, my neighborhood.
I give thanks for money in the bank ... and I say a quick prayer of gratitude every time a check arrives. I kiss the checks and say, "Thanks, God." I make sure to write "thank you" on every check I write ... because I'm grateful to have money to pay my bills.
Sam taught me that gratitude is more than attitude -- it's action.